Many would say I can love others unconditionally but I cannot love myself. We say to you that if you cannot love yourself unconditionally then you can love nobody. You are merely again experiencing the energies of illusion - these energies which are confusing and these energies that are not working in accordance with the will of mother/father for your highest good. Of course these uncontrolled energies of fear do have a place in your evolution, do have a place in your evolution of consciousness, because one day all of you must wake up and think I am not going to live in this fear anymore. In these dark walls of illusion, being tossed like a cork in the sea of the energies that are disruptive to your focus on Love. My friends, love yourselves, love your ego. (Washataka through John Armitage Rhynie)

The main lesson you learn on this planet earth; is about LOVE! You come here to explore all - I repeat - all of the facets of love in the 3rd and 4th Dimensions. You have two choices on how to do this - through the negative and through the positive. The positive is love known and the negative is the distortion or the becoming of the love fully as one knows it in part. Simply put, on this earth you are here to experience love or the distortion of love. Every situation you find yourself in here in your life experience adds grist to this knowledge which you are building about this issue.

Most beings of the human species come into this plane and experience the negative aspects first, so that they know what they do not want. It is very difficult when infinite possibility stares you in the face to know exactly what you do want if you have never experienced it before. Knowing what you do not want then helps you to decide where to move towards what you do want. Each of you knows what feels good and what doesn't. Thus one of the concepts I will be exploring with you is how to switch your mind to the concept, that if a thought or action feels loving, flow with it but if an act feels anything other than loving (anger, attack, fear or betrayal) it is a call for love on the other person's or your part. Remember, on this plane there is only love and what love is not - love or a call for love!

You have all known love - even if it seems in this lifetime that it was only during early childhood, or with your parents, or your wife, or husband, etc. You have actually known love from other lifetimes and places or you would not know that most of you feel unhappy, misunderstood or unsatisfied on a day to day basis. Many of you are confused about personal and impersonal love. Personal love refers to the feeling you have for someone or something else outside of yourself which you want to have, hold, cherish and be with forever. The feeling comes on very strong and you call it "falling in love". Unfortunately, for many of you this feeling goes away at some point in the relationship and you then "fall out of love". Since this lifestyle has so many varying points to it, it has been studied by your ancients and theologians for eons and has been called "lust" when lacking in the higher feelings and eros or passion when in the separated state of wanting the other person or animal or whatever for yourself and this other being alone against all others or the world.

When you open to the universe and have an experience of the "Oneness" in which you remember "who you are" and "what you are here to do" you then KNOW life differently and the feelings flow from you to every other formed thing animate or inanimate for you KNOW yourself as "All"! This is impersonal or universal Love and is compassion flowing. Passion has now been raised (spiraled) to its next plane of existence…

Third dimension is love becoming conscious of itself - ergo humans blending the mind and heart, if they transcend the human condition which tends to separate even more profoundly through judgment and fragmentation. Fourth dimension is love which when balanced and blended melds into the "ONENESS" being a deliberate choice to let go of the separation. Fifth dimension is only KNOWING. Love in its fullness completed - once again without symbology, again the fullness of the Angelic realm, one with the GODHEAD!

Now is the time to learn, in the practical, how to move from the various states of sleepiness to wakefulness through allowing the love energy to move you through with great alactricity (ever increasing centrifugal type speed) to a place of "ALL- KNOWINGNESS".

As you can see it is important to understand whether Love is being referred to as a noun, verb, adjective or adverb. Is love the goal or the becoming. All of these need to be understood when dealt with in the manner I will be referring to and acting upon in the near future. If love is a noun it is an end result and has been caught in time, in the past and this causes consternation for then it is something that has to be bought, caught, kept and held. However, then it is in its form capable of being taken away or lost. Now it is really caught in the duality.

If love is a verb it is action and refers to something you must do to define it - like doing loving acts. As this action takes place both people involved need to have an agreement on what is loving for both of them otherwise the duality sets in again with each person saying to the other - "that's great, I see you love me" or "if you truly loved me you would ___", again personal love. As an adjective or adverb you have often heard the statement ' In this case the loving thing to do would be ___". Unconditional love however just is. (Amaterasu through Chrystyanna)

Love means never having to say you’re sorry. (Erich Segal)

To love someone is largely about making a person feel good about who they are. (Dean Fraser)

Do not shut love out of your life by saying it is impossible to find. The quickest way to receive love is to give love; The fastest way to lose love is to hold it too tightly.

I've learnt - that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.

I’ve learnt - that no matter how much I care, some people just don't care back.

I’ve learnt - that there are people who love you dearly, but just don't know how to show it.

I’ve learnt - that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.

I’ve learnt - that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.

I’ve learnt - that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.

I’ve learnt - that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.

I’ve learnt - that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down will be the ones to help you get back up again.

I’ve learnt - that just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.

I’ve learnt - that your family won't always be there for you. It may seem funny, but people you aren't related to can take care of you and love you and teach you to trust people again. Families aren't biological.

I’ve learnt - that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.

I’ve learnt - that just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other, and just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.

I’ve learnt - that although the word "love" can have many different meanings, it loses value when overly used.

What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are, but how you deal with incompatibility. (George Levinger)

When people honor each other, there is a trust established that leads to synergy, interdependence, and deep respect. Both parties make decisions and choices based on what is right, what is best, what is valued most highly. (Blaine Lee - The Power Principle: Influence with Honor)

To paraphrase something the anthropologist Ashley Montagu once said, the way I change my life is to act as if I'm the person I want to be. This is, to me, the simplest, wisest advice you can give anyone. When you wake up and act like a loving person, you realize not only that you are altered, but that the people around you are also transformed, because everybody is changed by the reception of this love. (Bernie Siegel)

To be kind to all, to like many and love a few, to be needed and wanted by those we love, is certainly the nearest we can come to happiness. (Mary Roberts Rinehart)

Assumptions are the termites of relationships. (Henry Winkler)

Caring about others, running the risk of feeling, and leaving an impact on people, brings happiness. (Rabbi Harold Kushner)

Flatter me, and I may not believe you. Criticize me, and I may not like you. Ignore me, and I may not forgive you. Encourage me, and I will not forget you. Love me and I may be forced to love you. (William Arthur Ward)

Greet everyone you meet with a warm smile. No matter how busy you are, don't rush encounters with co-workers, family and friends. Speak softly. Listen attentively. Act as if every conversation you have is the most important thing on your mind today. Look your children and your partner in the eyes when they talk to you. Stroke the cat, carress the dog. Lavish love on every living being you meet. See how different you feel at the end of the day. (Sarah Ban Breathnach - Simple Abundance: A Daybook of Comfort and Joy)

The first duty of love is to listen. (Paul Tillich)

The best recipe for making friends is to be one yourself.

Every human being has one basic desire; to feel important and command the respect of others… to feel appreciated is one of man’s strongest desires. (Brian Adams)

Most people would rather get than give affection. (Aristotle)

To be kind is to take an interest in a person and show that you care about them.

The real art of conversation consists in building on another man’s observation, not overturning it.

A man’s loneliness is but fear of life. (Eugene O’Neil)

They do not truly love that do not show their love. (William Shakespeare)

Each person do we value by the way they make us feel. If they make us feel loved, we consider them a loving person. If they make us feel worthless, we consider them a worthless person. (Dean Fraser)

The reason why we have two ears and only one mouth is that we may listen the more and talk the less. (Zeno of Citium)

A man’s true wealth is in how valuable he makes all others feel. (Dean Fraser)

People forget what you said and how you said it…but they never forget the way you made them feel.